So, you’ve decided to meet up after months of chatting on your dating app? Be aware that there are certain questions you should avoid at all costs, or risk being ghosted. Discover these sensitive topics that can end your first date in mere seconds!
An Expert on Dating Shares Her Experience!
Our expert is Alexa Johnston, an Australian specialist in relationships and sexuality. She works closely with international media outlets like The Sun and the adult product retailer Just. This time, she’s addressing a topic we all dread: the first date.
The initial meeting is the perfect opportunity to stand out from the crowd. After all, there might be other contenders your date is frequently chatting with! However, with a little humor, kindness, and authenticity, you’re golden! In fact, getting a second date can be a piece of cake!
However, there are pitfalls to avoid at all costs during this kind of conversation. Alexa lists six questions she refers to as conversation killers. Asking these will likely lead to a breakup in no time, as they create an almost oppressive atmosphere!
According to her: “First dates are already nerve-wracking enough without accidentally stumbling into conversational landmines. What people often don’t realize is that some questions, no matter how innocent, can instantly scare off your date.”
Questions That Kill the Relationship!
The first question to avoid is: “Why are you still single?” Asking this can ruin all your prior efforts during the date. It’s as if the person is obligated to explain why their ex cheated on them. They certainly don’t have to show their flaws to anyone!
Next up is the question: “Have you had any cosmetic surgery?” According to Alexa, “This question puts your date in an awkward position where they have to either admit to having undergone cosmetic procedures or feel like you’re scrutinizing their appearance for ‘flaws.’”
The third question is even more personal: asking how much they earn. Money is never a topic to bring up on a first date! To the other person, it makes you appear as materialistic incarnate. Yet, many people prioritize this very factor at the moment!
Additionally, never ask: “Do you think I’m sexier than your ex?”. This is the ultimate trap question. Indeed, speaking poorly of someone you once loved isn’t easy. And responding negatively would insult the person in front of you!
Their Past Should Stay in the Past!
Some people also inquire: “How many children do you want and when can we start?” on the first date. While it’s good to look toward the future, isn’t it a bit premature? No one wants to commit too quickly without really knowing the person!
The most bizarre question is: “How many people have you slept with?” “It creates discomfort and implies that you’ll judge the person based on their answer. It can make people feel reduced to a number rather than being seen as a complex individual,” says Alexa.
